STOP Empowering Me
I’m over it, I really am.
I took part in a mentoring session recently where the mentor coach running the meeting said “I want to empower you….” Blah blah blah.
I stopped listening. Here’s why…
When you look up the definition of the word empower in the dictionary, this is what it says:
Empower: give (someone) the authority or power to do something.
and: Make (someone) stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights.
However, the antonym to this is FORBID… hmm, interesting energy there. And there's something not quite authentic for me in being 'empowered'.
It got me thinking.
I believe, as leaders, coaches, mentors, speakers, and entrepreneurs, we overuse the word empower, and that our use of this word has very little to do with our audience, and everything to do with us and our own state of BEing.
Simply put, I don’t need you to empower me! So please stop being the guru, and trust that your audience/client/team member already has the capacity to tap into their own power. Trust that they are in control, in the director’s chair, creating their own story, vision and award-winning movie-of-their-life.
Step back from wanting to empower people, so you can step up and start INSPIRING them instead. How cool is that?
Back to the dictionary:
The word INSPIRE means to fill (someone) with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.
Inspire is also related to the word spirare, which means to breathe.
I believe that every speaking engagement offers me an opportunity to INSPIRE my audience: to breathe life into their stories, turning them to gold. To inspire them to share their hopes, dreams, talents and capabilities on a global scale and thereby creating choices, and the possibilities this brings.
I invite you to step up and join me.
Inspire: breathe life into… you, your message and your audience.
With much gratitude for all the people who inspire me.